Hi bindweed, I've been looking for asexual writings like this,. When I eventually talk to more people in my life about asexuality, some of what you'd written is how I would like to explain. The 'passionate incoherence' stuff, rather than a definition 'little or no sexual attraction', followed by a lot a caveats, then some sort of attempt to explain /through more caveats) why it still matters.
Hmm I wish I could get my thoughts ito words better, but anyway, I look forward to reading more from you
Thank you for commenting! I think it's really important that the aspec community starts to develop ways of understanding and expressing ourselves that are richer, more accurate, and not tied to existing models of sexuality that don't serve us—so I'm excited to see other people who resonate with what I'm saying and are trying to develop their own ideas! Words will never be perfect but the more we seek to be true to what we're really experiencing and what we really need to say, the more we create a foundation to build our lives on individually and as a group of people with related experiences.
Big fan of this. This is exactly how I view my asexuality. On one hand getting ahold of reductive labels is great because it documents what could/can be. But it's not the end all be all of my human experience. Im trying to be okay with not fully being able to describe my a/sexuality ya know. Because I'm not all that clear headed on what that is or how I might want to express myself to anyone else lmao. (Aren't we all). Part of me wishes there was less emphasis placed on all this so we could just, be. Ya know?
Hi bindweed, I've been looking for asexual writings like this,. When I eventually talk to more people in my life about asexuality, some of what you'd written is how I would like to explain. The 'passionate incoherence' stuff, rather than a definition 'little or no sexual attraction', followed by a lot a caveats, then some sort of attempt to explain /through more caveats) why it still matters.
Hmm I wish I could get my thoughts ito words better, but anyway, I look forward to reading more from you
Thank you for commenting! I think it's really important that the aspec community starts to develop ways of understanding and expressing ourselves that are richer, more accurate, and not tied to existing models of sexuality that don't serve us—so I'm excited to see other people who resonate with what I'm saying and are trying to develop their own ideas! Words will never be perfect but the more we seek to be true to what we're really experiencing and what we really need to say, the more we create a foundation to build our lives on individually and as a group of people with related experiences.
Big fan of this. This is exactly how I view my asexuality. On one hand getting ahold of reductive labels is great because it documents what could/can be. But it's not the end all be all of my human experience. Im trying to be okay with not fully being able to describe my a/sexuality ya know. Because I'm not all that clear headed on what that is or how I might want to express myself to anyone else lmao. (Aren't we all). Part of me wishes there was less emphasis placed on all this so we could just, be. Ya know?